"To be in your child's memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today" said Barbara Johnson, a famous professor of Psychiatry in Society at Harvard University. Every child is born with a need to be loved, and never grows out of it. Parents are more than willing to sacrifice time for their kids but sometimes are stuck for ways to spend that precious time. Here are a few suggestions to make every moment with your child count!
Have all kinds of conversation
Most times you know how exactly a conversation with your kid is going to go, especially if they're below five years of age. Truth is, it doesn’t matter. Your child is not going to remember what you spoke about, just that you spent time with him. Have all kinds of conversation with him and listen intently. See the world from their view point - young and clueless. Get their opinions on things that may seem trivial to you - like why the sky is blue or what they thought of the French fries served at yesterday's party. Kids can get really creative with their answers - giving you plenty to think or even laugh about.
Be open and transparent
All parents want to be superheroes to their children - strong, capable and always right. However, setting up this kind of image in your child's mind may be dangerous if they see you fail during a crisis in the future. Being REAL and honest is better than appearing to be invincible to your child. Let them know your failures and your fears. Do not hesitate to apologize to them if you said or did something you later regretted. You may look weak in front of your child but at the end of the day, you have taught them the importance of honesty and humility.
Surprise them every once in a while
Children love and live fairytale lives. They do not get sucked into mundane routines like adults. They wake up every day to endless possibilities of every scale. And this is where you step in. Kids don't measure love against money and simple things like their favorite candy bar or a surprise game of hide-n-seek often does the trick.
Help at home
Don’t you want the perfect haven for your children to grow in? But there’s a flip side to this and they start taking too many things for granted. Instead, keep it real and give them an occasional peek into the effort that goes into running a home. Helping with the dishes, handing out the gardening tools to Dad, or dusting the shelves are some simple ways of inducting them into basic home improvement. What's more, it makes for great spontaneous conversations between you and your kids while you're at it.